Woman Is Fed Up After Boyfriend Shows Consistent Favoritism Toward His Girl Best Friend, Breakup Ensues When Woman Finds Them Cuddling On The Couch

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Aug 22, 2024 8:00 PM EDT

"I'm not saying he's a bad guy, it's just that I'm not comfortable with my boyfriend having such a close female best friend, especially when I thought I was his best friend."

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  • There's nothing wrong with having platonic friendships with folks of the opposite gender when in a relationship. The lines get blurred when you begin showing favoritism and more affection to the person you're not in a committed relationship with rather than to the person you are with romantically. Why is it that men think they can pull a fast one on women? We have a sixth sense when it comes to sneakiness, which is exactly what the woman in this story displays.

    This woman has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for eight years, and they've never had anything remotely close to drama in their time together. Her boyfriend has become increasingly close to a girl they both knew in college. This closeness had only been growing, so much so that the woman felt like a third wheel whenever the three of them would hang out together.

    Her boyfriend has been on solo dinner outings with his girl best friend, and things come to a head when the woman finds them cuddling on the couch. This is after the woman had voiced for months that she was uncomfortable with her boyfriend and his best friend's relationship, as they would text all day and night, and get physically close too often. Even if there's nothing going on, walking all over your girlfriend's feelings is the exact recipe for a breakup. That's exactly what happens. Scroll to read the rest of the story and words of encouragement from the ladies of the internet. She made the right choice.

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    AIO? Broke up with long- term boyfriend because of his female friend.
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    This is very serious so hear me out. I started dating my boyfriend when we were both 20 years old. It was my second relationship, and it was his first. We met in college, became friends, and eventually developed feelings for each other, leading to our dating
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    relationship. We've been together for 8 years now, and we've been planning to get married in one or two years, with aspirations for two kids. Our relationship was genuinely loving, with no real problems. I was content and happy.
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    However, things took an uncomfortable turn when my boyfriend became very close to a girl we knew from college. They texted frequently, and while the content didn't appear inappropriate, I still felt uneasy.
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    Whenever we attended events, he would bring her along as a plus-one, and they seemed to get along extremely well. At one point, he even went out for lunch with her alone at a restaurant.
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    After about six months of feeling uncomfortable, I shared my feelings with my boyfriend. I told him that his closeness with another girl made me feel bad. He reassured me that nothing untoward was happening, that he
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    would never cheat, and that this girl was just his best friend whom he had recently reconnected with. I thought I was being overly controlling, so I asked him to be careful and dropped the subject.
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    But as time went on, I continued to see how close they were. They texted constantly, and their physical interactions, like the hugs, seemed more intimate than platonic. One day, when she was
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    going through a rough time, she came over to our place. I stayed in the kitchen while they talked, and I saw him hold her hand and then hug her tightly, with her head resting on his chest.
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    I confronted him again, expressing my discomfort with their closeness. He told me not to overreact, insisting that she was just a friend. I decided to drop it and tried to become friends with her as well. I talked to her when
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    she came over, but our conversations mainly centered around my boyfriend. When he came home, they would talk to each other, leaving me feeling like a third wheel in my own relationship.
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    This realization led me to question whether I wanted to continue putting up with these feelings for the rest of my life. Should I really marry and get pregnant by this guy? There are plenty of people who wouldn't make me feel this way. I realized
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    perhaps we weren't compatible if he thought this was appropriate. I left the house, and of course, he didn't even notice my absence. When I returned home, I found them snuggled up on the couch watching a movie. I angrily pulled the blanket off and told him that we were done. I gathered some of my belongings and left.
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    Since then, he has been texting and calling me, saying that I can't throw away an 8-year relationship over mere insecurities. I've been ignoring his messages. I'm not saying he's a bad guy, it's just that I'm not comfortable with my
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    boyfriend having such a close female best friend, especially when I thought I was his best friend. I mean, I am his girlfriend, right? It's not like I'm controlling him, I simply left, and he can do whatever he wants now. I don't care anymore what was going on between them. Platonic or otherwise.
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    Our mutual friends know about the situation now (because of him), and some of them tell me that I'm overreacting. They say my ex-boyfriend is really hurting over this. And some said I am a controlling. Did I overreact?
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    Original_Barnacle... • 3h ago No, you didn't. You tried everything you could to be ok with it, and when you did try to tell him how uncomfortable it made you, he completely dismissed your feelings and didn't even make an attempt to tone it down with her so that you could feel heard and like your comfort in the
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    relationship was a priority to him. I imagine he makes her feelings and happiness a priority, there for her when she needs support, listens to her when she's upset, right? I would have that same attitude, he can be single and do whatever he wants.
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    You're not the one who threw 8 years away, he did. When you left the house and he didn't even notice, and was all snuggled up under a blanket on the couch with her when you got back, that would be enough of a sign for me. You're mutual friends are basing their opinions off his
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    side of the story. I doubt any of them can truthfully say that they wouldn't do the same if they were in your shoes. 100 You don't want to marry him and try to start a family and be the 3rd wheel in your own marriage for the rest of your life.
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    It's funny how you're supposed to care how he feels when he couldn't do the same for you, and you're apparently just supposed to it up and be miserable, for what though?
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